I feel invisible

[literary-aquamarine-alpaca]

My wife and I are in our 40s, and while I’m trying to take accountability for some of my erection issues, some of it is I just don’t feel safe around her.

I don’t know if it’s perimenopause, or what, but she’s either always angry, or I’m invisible. Today is Veteran’s Day, and while I don’t expect a lot of fanfare, a simple “thanks baby” from her or something would’ve been nice. Normally? She doesn’t even acknowledge I’m around unless she wants to complain about something.

And the sex…used to be amazing. Now? “Go take your pill” is what amounts to foreplay.

Before you ask, yes, I’ve discussed my issues with her. We’ve fought, and she blames her hormones.

And I feel like a chore.

Do you know what I would give to have her look at me and say she wants me? That I’m sexy?

[geographical-aquamarine-sailfish]

Sorry that you are going through this bro. That can’t be easy. Perhaps try marriage counselling.

[arbitrary-moccasin-tapir]

Sounds difficult. My situation had echoes of this. Couples counseling worked wonders for us. For starters, it communicated to my wife that I cared enough to make the effort. She eventually met me halfway with changes in her attitudes.