Title kinda says it all. I’m single and have been for years. I’m on the dating apps and try to go on dates, but nothing works out. People like my personality but usually see me as only a friend at best. I feel like I’m locked in a cycle of feeling bad about my ability to perform, which erodes my confidence and charisma, so no one will have sex with me. Then my performance keeps getting worse, which means it’s even less likely to attract and satisfy a partner. And so on. I haven’t had a full erection in years and my sex drive is basically nonexistent other than my desire to be in healthy relationships. I watch poem maybe once a month, and almost never get any sort of morning wood. I’ve had my testosterone checked and it’s in the normal range. I get sad to the point of wanting to cry anytime I feel attraction to someone or think about sex. Is my situation just hopeless?
Omg. That’s terrible buddy! I am so sorry to hear that. Clearly you need therapy, and not just this app. Find people around you that love you and appreciate you. And find a therapist in person, I recommend too. I have had ed issues for a year and am only now seeing glimpses of light. But it is there and I have no choice but to move forward and embrace my life and my situation with love and kindness.
Its not hopeless. I have gone through periods of feeling this way. When our confidence is down, its hard to find a partner and it feeds itself. Its good that you are getting hits on the apps. Use the tools on here to reverse negative thoughts, fight the inner critic, and allow your confidence to come through. I felt exactly as you but I did have some successful encounters which helped me to build back confidence. Also when you meet someone, it it’s the right person, being honest with some of your struggles/issues can help to take some pressure off you and if done right, it can make you more attractive to a woman.
Sorry to hear that man. Kind of a similar position myself in past. What worked for me was not thinking too far into future. Just focus on one issue and make incremental changes. I focused on making first few dates so good that she wanted me bad. This then really motivated me to work on ED issue for obvious reasons. It also really increased my self confidence. However when it came to it I did find any Ed issue really knocked me. But I kept trying and definitely noticed have come a long way vs younger me.