I’ve been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now and we’ve tried to have sex a couple of times and I simply cannot get aroused. I’ve realized the issues with porn and masturbation is a real one with me but right now I’m trying to also combat the anxiety I have going into the situation. She feels bad because I don’t get hard and is starting to think something is wrong with her. I’ve told her about my issues and she is understanding but I really don’t wanna lose her and like her alot. Does anyone have any recommendations on how to ease my overall anxiety and stress and more specifically when it comes to getting intimate?
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Don’t stress!!
I was the same. I could get hard during foreplay and oral and lose it at insertion. Like clockwork…
I quit solo and porn (90%…) it’s helped. I still get anxious and he goes soft. I try to focus on what’s in front of me. A genuine hottie, naked that wants nothing more than to please me! I focus on her hot legs and feet in the air and on my face. She loves foot play and I gladly oblige her! I’ll rub myself on her pussy, sometimes that gets me hard- she’s also gotten off that way also…
We all know that P/V sex is what’s expected, but really it’s the shared experience, closeness and pleasure.
I’ve been reading I
On the OMGYes app that like 80% of women don’t ever come from penetration alone anyway. We gotta stop putting so much pressure on our dicks to perform!
You have 10 fingers a tongue and 2 palms. I’ve also introduced a couple toys that we’ve cum to really like as part of our playtime. Honestly I’ve lost count after 6-7 times she’s cum without my cock. We’re both pretty happy.