To not shame myself for watching it
I’ve come to the conclusion that porn isn’t necessarily bad for you, it’s about what triggers you to watch it and what role it plays in your life. I don’t want to shame myself for watching it, but I’d like to be able to use other techniques (maybe some less visual ones) to have an equally enjoyable experience.
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I want to allow myself to use it when I feel the desire to physically. I want to watch porn that I think is ethically produced, and I want to feel free to explore my sexuality without guilt.
Making porn more of a fun thing than a recipe to quell boredom. Trying to have more active habits vs passive habits that lead to easy mental drifting…
Understanding I can watch it for entertainment and not associate climaxes every time with it. Still working on the shame/guilt
The main change I’ve made is to be open about talking to my wife about it, only indulging in porn in a way that I feel comfortable sharing, and actually sharing the experience with her too
Im feeling less like watching porn is the problem which has helped minimize the experience and made it more enjoyable.
Make sure to enjoy it
I will watch porn more sparingly, if im thinking about hitting a pornsite out of horniness, ill try relying on my imagination, when i feel like it to relieve stress, ill experiment with other stress management techniques. At the same time, ill acknowledge that watching porn is normal and healthy and not feel guilty when i do watch it
Porn isnt always bad but I should understand my motivation behind it. When I do it, it can be a good additive but I shouldn’t solely rely on it. I also have to continue to work changing my perception on it because I always feel guilt and shame afterwards.
I need to understand why I like watching porn
These are practical steps to have a more balanced approach to porn such that it does not become the sole source of sexual release
I realized that I mostly watch it because I am indeed horny, but the issue comes from feeling bad about it afterwards
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Porn makes my brain lazy, there’s no need to fantasise because it is presented in front of you. I need to restart that imagination.
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Thinking about why I want to do it and deciding whether that’s actually right for me at that time, or if there are other ways I could be getting the same result.
Sometimes I just need an outlet to get rid of sexual tension but if it is being used becaiss I am stressed - I recognized there are other outlets
Good to find a balance of not looking at porn as 100% shameful or something I should feel guilty about, whilst also managing my usage of it - maybe relying less on it and more on my imagination/other ways of relieving stress/boredom
Porn is just another way to entertain oneself and get off. As long as you have a healthy variety of different ways that you masturbate, whether it be fantasizing, audio, and straight up porn, it’s healthy
I think r the important thing is that it doesn’t become the sole source of sexual pleasure, and further not to be fixated on one type of porn because then it can impact your sexual life given it probably will not replicate what porn gives