I’ll do the porn tracker to start then decide after how much to cut back
Porn makes it difficult to be in the moment with a partner for me. Realize I had a hard time connecting to the experience, even masturbating with no porn. Gonna try cut down and try other methods to connect with myself in the moment
I go for long stretches of time without looking at porn. It’s just that when I do it turns into a 2-4 hour edging session looking for just the right new clip to get off to for maximum effect. Newsflash: that clip doesn’t really exist and even if it does I won’t want to rewatch it.
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Yep massively cutting down
Yes, cutting down as I don’t like the way I feel after.
I’m starting to feel better about it. I understand that I’m not the only one here with this issue so I don’t feel isolated as much as I used to. It’s nice to know that porn isn’t 100% the cause of my issues. While I still have some work to do(like that tracker and future activities) I now have a path forward to help me be better.
I feel I need a break to let my mind reset before perhaps exploring ethical porn or audio options
I’ve learned that my relationship with porn is EXTREMELY addictive. If I’m exposed to explicit sexual content, it’s all I think about until I cum. And the urge returns a few hours later. Before long I’m using it 3-4 times a day without breaking a sweat. And if that keeps up, it starts taking me forever to cum, even to porn. It just consumes me every time I dip my toe in the water. But like fast food, if I can just stay away, the craving does subside. I’d rather just cut off all exposure to it.
I will check in with myself before watching porn. Often I do it impulsively, but then I do it every day, and it hurts my actual sex life or takes away time from other things I want to do. Porn itself is not bad, but I want to take steps to reduce how much I watch it.
I will add to the porn log when I feel the urge. I will replace porn with other activities I enjoy.
I don’t feel good when I consume porn. I consume it because it offers a glimpse into a life I don’t have. This glimpse, however, leaves me with a sense of guilt after. I know that there are a lot of ethical issues with it, and with porn sites, and when I masturbate to porn it turns me off sex with my partner.
When I next feel the urge to watch porn, I’ll text my partner instead, and tell her I love her to put things into perspective.
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I wasn’t just watching porn, I was paying for cam sites, and that is so much more shame, especially when I was in relationships. I’m working hard to break free from that.
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I’m not sure if I’ll give myself a porn allowance , but I will try to get in some other activities that I actually enjoy
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Hey man, I’m with you there. I wonder if Mojo can address what happens when one ‘graduates’ from porn to cam sites or apps. Recently, I’ve been telling myself that it’s not really real. I could have these things in person rather than wasting my time and energy on fake stuff. Maybe try that too?
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I don’t think porn is bad necessarily. It is just a waste of time for me, keeping me away from healthy habits of sleeping well and enough. I tend to drink and eat before or after. That’s also unhealthy. I’d rather sleep more or focus on self investment
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While I would love to be able to watch porn, it’s highly addictive to me because of how I consumed it in the past. So I try my best to not watch it anymore.
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I’ve realised i watch it out of bored and stress. I’m going to look for other solutions in those situations a
I will first understand why I watched it. Then try to find alternatives that will help or address the reasons why I watch it. For example, if it is due to stress, I can consider meditation working out or listening to music or talking to someone. Do something else that makes you feel good.
I will keep note when I think about porn and see what triggers it. This will help me understand why I watch it and hopefully create better habits
I think I watch a lot of porn out of boredom or habit. It likely is a stress coping mechanism at this point too