My wife and she said it is ok.
My current/ex partner knows. She is understanding but the relationship has been one of great turmoil. Iām also dating and this woman immediately blamed herself then wouldnāt talk to me which left me feeling terrible. Future anxiety issues thereā¦ Now my current/ex and I are unsure of our status. But I think she would be very supportive if we get back together and we learn to trust again.
I have told a few people about it. Theyāve all been pretty chill and understanding about it. I am considering telling this person I am seeing casually in a couple days. It hasnāt been a problem with her so far. But was when I masterbated last night so I feel like its worth it to bring up.
Yes. They were supportive
I have been able to speak with my partner about it and she has been very supportive and open to helping however she can. I definitely support talking to your partner about it
I didnāt have to say anythingā¦it was quite apparent when I couldnāt get it up. It was a devastating experience and I was rejected. Sometimes I secretly take viagra which sometime works and sometimes doesnāt. I donāt know if it doesnāt work because Iām just too stressed and worried about getting it up, or if thereās another reason it doesnāt work.
I fumbled through it a couple of times after messing around partially clothed with one partner until we were in a situation that it was terribly obvious I wasnāt getting it up. I tried to explain it, but didnāt have the words. He tried to brush it off, but I felt it was awkward. All kinds of feelings can surface, even if they arenāt judgement. Once I learned more about what was causing my ED, I shared that with him in greater specificity and he was verbally very supportive (but I still canāt eliminate the possibility that thereās been a negative impact on the relationship). I do think itās really important to have a script of sorts prepared, or at least key points and language so you can articulate it with more confidence. I think if you can reassure your partner that itās a known problem and itās not their fault, it help calm them and they will hopefully be sympathetic.
No
Yes my ex, she was a bit taken back at first and was wondering if it was her or the sex being bad, but when I explained she became very supportive, was comforting me every time I tried and failed, and was never pressuring me
Nope. Have masked it with tablets and continue to do so. I canāt speak to anyone about it.
I have told my partner about it and we regularly chat about it actually. It does really help. But I try not to dwell on it too much
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Literally nobody cared as much as me. Whenever I told anybody they did not treat me differently and were generally helpful. I speak only of people that I trust of course. Not everybody has 2 know.
Told the girl iāve been seeing the second time we tried to have sex (The first time she just thought i was being a gent as it was our first date). Told her it was because i liked her and itās always worse when iām into someone, which was the truth. She was very supportive and we had good sex after that albeit with me still struggling at times. However, now the problem seems to be worsening again. I guess itās down to the fact we are now 3 months into the relationship and i feel like I should have gotten over it with her by now (which has usually been the case in previous relationships). The main thing that triggers me is not being in control of it and knowing that the longer it goes on the more chance there is of it ruining what should be a newly blossoming relationship.
I told my past girlfriend about it and they were not understanding at all about it. She couldnāt understand why it was happening to her and that she never had this problem before.
Iāve told some casual partners about it. I havenāt had overly negative experiences but my own inner critic sometimes twists my words that Iāve said and I feel worse about myself. Itās a constant process to keep that voice quieter and not listen to it.
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My wife
Very supportive
No, but my long term partner knows from our experience together. Sheās supportive, but I still feel like weāre not quite sure what to do. After this course, I think we need to keep communicating and trying things out.
i told my gf of 8 months at the time and she thought it was her fault which made me feel worse bc when it happened i had no clue what the cause was. once we talked about it and i did more read watch she was very supportive and now anytime iām feeling super anxious some days i just talk to her and sheās supportive
Told a couple of my best mates and at first they thought I was joking and started joking around about it. But once they realised I was serious they actually comforted me and then opened up about their own issues theyāve had in the bedroom. It really hit home to me that itās really a problem that affects everyone and just talking about it helps everyone.
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My wife has been very supportive. It took her a while to understand that it wasnāt about her not being attractive, but she gets that now.