I seem to have a lot of problems getting horny for my attractive wife. I cannot seem to get an erection when she wants sex and even if I can get one 10 to 20 minutes later it is a mood killer. Recently, my erections which I can somewhat keep up on its own for over 40 minutes cannot seem to last when I have sex or even while I’m looking at her. I know she’s attractive but I don’t get horny with my wife, instead I have this feeling of dread that I’m going to make a mistake and oftentimes sex is not enjoyable with her even though she tries. Any ideas on how I can be ready when she is? It seems very surprising to me that I don’t even know when I’ve gone flaccid when in her.
Couple of things. Try the “smouldering” and the meditation.
The dread bit… I’ve been there and it’s not great.
I found it a slower journey (it need not be the same for you)
Follow the exercises… and use the meditation. Get in the zone ahead of time.
Tbh I also use Cialis, some days but not all….but it’s more if a confidence booster.
Keep the faith
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Sorry, I meant simmering not smouldering… but you can smoulder as well if you want.