I had some issues last winter and kept up really well with MoJo and really broke through. I cut down massively on porn consumption and found myself really enjoying sex properly again.
Now my partner and I are very seriously trying for a baby- monitoring ovulation, changing diets, more exercise etc etc- and I’m finding the pressure really, really getting to me.
We’ve managed to have quite reasonable sex five days running but I’m utterly burned out and I can’t satisfy her, and I’m feeling like I’ve taken a massive step back.
She isn’t even putting much pressure on. She simply reminds me that the right time is coming up and does a test in the AM. But for some reason my body immediately shrank from it.
Erections were a struggle, I couldn’t pleasure her like normal, and though I came every time it felt entirely mechanical. I’m currently sat downstairs while she works out the tension of the past four days.
It’s just making me feel like a total failure, and like I’ve stepped back massively. The inner critic is extra noisy and I just need some reassurance.
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Sounds totally normal to get performance anxiety with that much pressure tbh. Maybe talking to her about your issues even showing her this app and how many men have the same problem can help you both be more relaxed and work on it together
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Looks like you are doing great in general but now you are experiencing a few setbacks. Like with almost everything in life, you can’t expect progress to be linear. It goes up and down. I am sure you guys will bounce back eventually. Just remind yourself how much progress you already made and recall the great sex that you had, since you started to improve yourself, instead of just focusing on the recent bad stuff.
Of course, I know that this is easier said than done and in fact, I massively struggle with this negativity bias as well. I am kind of writing this to also get that into my head as well.
Stay strong!
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We’re in exactly the same situation. I am really struggling with getting and even maintaining an erection at the moment when we plan to have sex (around ovulation like yourself) and I feel like a total failure. Never had this issue before. We’ve been trying for 6 months now and for 3 of the 6 we’ve had this issue. Things start to happen at random times when we’re not about to do the deed and I feel normal again, but as soon as we start trying it’s like my body shuts down. I thought I was the only one I must admit. Trying to work through mojo now to hopefully make big changes. All the best mate
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