Fear of losing an erection

🍆 Erection issues
1

Around 2 years ago I experienced performance anxiety with my ex girlfriend but we were able to work through it together and after about a month I was able to have great sex for around a year or more and was able to get it up every time pretty much, and if not I wouldn’t even think about it. I’d just move on. During this month however I experienced really irrational and obsessive thoughts that just didn’t resonate with me. Thoughts of what if I’m gay because I couldn’t get it up, what if I can never get it up again? Things like that and they were really hard to get rid of.

Fast forward to now, me and my ex broke up for university and I felt a great deal of pressure to have one night stands with people because I’m single and at uni and everyone else is. Around a month and half ago, I went back to a girls house after a night out. And as soon as we started initiating things, my nerves kicked in again and I couldn’t get it up. It was humiliating and I walked out. This has led me to go full circle, right now due to the constant thoughts of not being able to get it up when I’m in that situation again, I have lower sexual desire, I’m scared of sex in case it happens again, I’m almost scared of going on dates in case it comes to that. And I find myself obsessing over the fact that I’ll never have sex again due to this. I’m making some sort of progress using mojo. But I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this and what I can do to help this situation I’m in?

1 Like
2

I can relate as my issue seemed to come out of no were as well . My advise keep reminded you inner self that the majority of times you never had any issues. Also even when you did, it just wasn’t a big deal because it happens . I know it’s easier said than done because I have been battling this for the past several months. I know you can do it. I have had great success as of lately and feel confident that I can get completely back to where I was!!

2 Likes
3

I can totally relate to this. I have obsessive irrational thoughts about not ever being able to have sex again and it’s debilitating. I know the problem is psychological but I can’t seem to break the cycle of dread and anxiety when I’m in the heat of the moment.

2 Likes
4

I resonate with this as I had this trouble in my teens. As you say, to the point where it affects you when you’re on dates. I didn’t want to go on dates with people who knew my friends in fear of them finding out. However, I got past it with someone who I really connected with and was together with for 8 years. I’m back here now because we’ve broken up and I’m going home with people I have less of a connection with and it seems to have started to be an issue again. But then again, it happened to me last weekend but we did other stuff and she was very satisfied (cuming from her own hand while i did the same). She just text me again to hang out again so I guess it didn’t bother her.

1 Like