Hey my problem isn’t necessarily ED I have trouble with ejaculation. Anyone in a similar situation?
Hey guys I’m my forties and I’m having some issues. My erections are less common and even when I do get one it goes away pretty quickly. I started viagra for the first time ever and it helps but without it not really. Any advice or why this is?
I get that. We had 10 years of trying for our first (now successful in the end…yay!) due to other medical complications but sex became about procreation not fun. The pressure takes it’s toll on anyone, and it did on me at times. In the end we decided my wife would track cycles and I would be ignorant of when it was ‘that time’ and we would just have lots of sex for fun. Go back to sex for fun.
I have the same issue, pressure of trying to perform when it comes to the window of ovulation has been a big issue
I know this scenario well .The pills stop working and the anxiety and frustration take over to ensure erections either don’t happen or do happen but then fail almost immediately when the subconscious fear hits like a bullet! A self fulfilling prophecy .Upon recommendation I bought a medical grade penis pump and retention rings. After a bit of practice and using 2 rings I can now get the biggest and firmest erections I’ve ever had and the subconscious cant kill kill them .You can use the rings for 30 mins so plenty of time .Its all a bit of a faff and not romantic but it is a solution, otherwise the only fail safe cure is a 15k operation to have an penile implant…and I’m tempted!
I am currently going through this same thing. We are trying for our first baby and we haven’t had any luck for a year. I am currently the one that can not perform when she is ovulating. Whether it is not getting an erection or loosing an erection during foreplay. It has lead to some issue for our marriage and has given me a lot of depression about not conceiving when all of our friends are.
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This. Almost exactly the same kinda situation for me too. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this too, brother, but I gotta say it’s a huge relief to find out I’m not alone in this. It’s so frustrating that I can’t let her into my head to see there’s absolutely nothing in the world wrong with her.
I started having performance anxiety when I was 17 and it took me a month of failing to get and stay hard with my gf at the time. Now I’m 19 and recently single and my performance anxiety has come back. Two of my last hookups have resulted in me not being able to stay hard for more than a minute which is embarrassing to say the least. Just wanted to see if anyone else has struggled with this and has any advice for me
I can relate. Same thing happened to me at the same age. As soon as I put a condom on, I went soft. Took months before I could actually penetrate my gf at the time. Happened again at the start of new relationships, but the time decreased to get over the hump w each new lady. Once over the hump, I usually didnt have issues until a new partner. Intermittently, it would not impact me at all with a new woman.
I’m in my 40s now and dealing with this suprisingly in the middle of my marriage. I think currently its related to some old unresolved psychological trauma as well as blocks in the relationship with my wife. But if I it helps any, I can offer a few things I wish I knew at 16-19:
-ignore the paradigms of masculinity that say you need to sleep with as many women as possible. Focus on your own growth, mentally, physically, emotionally, etc. Find out who you are and what you want out of life and from a romantic relationship. Then go find it. Find partners you really connect with on many levels. I think you will find you’ll be more in your body than your head with these women and your cock will work just fine.
-go easy on yourself. Try not to develop anymore negative self talk than you may already have around the issue. Meditation helps.
-stay away from the meds. They have an appeal and its strong, but in time they fall short. Do the work to find the root of your demons and slay them. The pills are just a band aid to a symptom masking a larger issue.
Keep your head up. Your little head will follow.
Same here. I hate that and it’s frustrating. Leaves me thinking how bad that is
I completely understand the feeling.
Me, I have no issues getting hard (maybe every now and then) but ejaculating seems to be out of the picture