Do you ever get anxious during sex? How does it affect you?

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Sometimes, especially with a new partner - can be a stressful experience.

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Most of the time yes. I feel like I get up in my head and spectate sex rather than participate and enjoy it.

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Sometimes I realize I’m trying to plan my next move or position and not just enjoying it.

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Yes

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yes. as soon as i get in my head, i overthink and lose my erection.

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Yes, recently happened to me… Caught myself physically shaking!

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I get anxious before sex that I won’t get an erection. This makes me hypersensitive to anything that doesn’t fit what I think the situation should be, not a sexy thought

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Yes, I definitely do. This anxiety then triggers past thoughts about previous failures and how likely it is that it will happen again

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Anxiety before sex causes me not to get hard and will lead to more anxiety causing issues to last for months.

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Every time!! I get an increased heartbeat, a feeling of a lump in my throat and can sometimes get the shakes… would love to know where it stems from!!

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Yes I get anxious during sex.

My mind just wanders around the world

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Yes! My previous partner always said I was such a relaxed person until it came to the bedroom, where she could see the fear in my eyes.I tend to doubt my ability to get an erection, and if it does happen I start to think ‘well this won’t last’. A few times we came close to having sex, but when reaching for the condom, I started thinking again and lost it.Highly frustrating all round!

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I am afraid of sex. I can’t get turned on. I keep thinking my penis won’t work, i’ll just go soft any way, I’m going to let her down, she won’t think i’m interested or find her attractive and she will look elsewhere and finish with me because i’m a failure in bed.

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I am concerned I won’t have an erection and I dont want my partner to see my flaccid penis. Then when I don’t have an erection I get annoyed with myself and distracted

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I don’t worry about not being ‘good enough’ but more about not getting it up and more so, keeping it up. For me the anxiety comes in in that stage between oral sex and full sexual intercourse which causes me to lose my erection and then panic.

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Yes all the time. I’ve even gotten to a point now that when I have Viagra, it doesnt work because I get so anxious the erection just goes away. As a result, I’ve lost confidence and relationships…

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It makes me feel uncomfortable and it is due to the fact that I do not want to disappoint my partner.

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I feel like either my size or their experience with me is affected negatively

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