I was recently having this issue. I was having the problem of âwhat if I donât last long? What if I donât satisfy my partner?â Ever since I started having these thoughts my performance have plummeted. When itâs time for it, it wonât go up or will go up but not completely. I have also noticed if there is an exterior problem in your life that you think about too much youâll be stuck in your head when itâs time for it.
I just start struggling from ED not too long ago, my first thought was it was because I watched a lot of porn before, I do get nervous in bed and I am always stuck in my head with negative thoughts
Makes me feel inadequate. Like my partner is dissatisfied. Then focus on my penis being hard takes over and loses hardness
Yes. Absolutely.
Go off on an internal death spiral and no matter what the other guy says, Iâm stuck there in an internal fight. Getting mad Iâm not hard. Trying to force it⌠Getting mad thar doesnât worn⌠Getting mad that Iâm mad.
Yes, last partner I was never really comfortable with and I was always in my head
Sometimes it just reduces how hard I am in the moment or completely gets rid of my erection
With a new partner that I have emotional connection with yes. But if itâs a random, I have nil issues.
yes
Yes and before as I know my erection will not last
I get anxious most times Iâm about to have sex. The truth is, my partner is much more experienced than I am and while I think itâs great that she knows what she likes, I donât really know what I like. Sheâll say things to me like âI like getting f***ed for an hour straightâ which makes me uncomfortable because Iâve never even been close to lasting that long and I fear that when we have sex sheâs thinking about past partners that sheâs had a more fulfilling sex life with. I want so badly to be able to pleasure her and to have a more active and engaged sex life. Iâm so nervous that Iâll disappoint her by not lasting long which has lead to this downward spiral for me.
Yea. I never had this problem before my current partner. I actually like this girl and get scared to have sex and fail as a partner. Every other girl Iâve hooked up with, I didnât care about â emotionally.
Itâs weird because it doesnât happen at all with some girls I date. The ones that seem sluttier or sexier. But nice shy girls I get the worst performance anxiety. But thatâs the type of girl I want to be with
For 80% of the time I do get solid erections. However, what I find challenging sometimes is keeping those erections. I believe my brain has become less sensitive due to frequent exposure to sexually content so that I find regular sex with a partner less exciting. It affects me by affecting my partner; I feel bad and helpless when she feels like she isnât enough to turn me on.
Extremely anxious
Yes, it started a few years ago when I had an emotionally challenging breakup which led to a depression.
After I recovered I tried to engage in a sexual moment and it didnât work - I was mortified, and the woman (who WAS NOT in a relationship with me) also was looking at me like âwhat the hell is wrong with you⌠or maybe something is wrong with me??â I was so embarrassed that I just left.
Every time afterwards this itâs all I could think about. Over time I did t want to ever have sex and would avoid it.
I was give different ed meds and they helped, but my interest in sex faded because of how deeply it all impacted me.
Now I am trying this to see if maybe this could help because I hate taking medication.
Yes i do i worry that i wont cum i can get hard some what but cant cum
Yes when we start to have sex i think that this will not go the way i want and will be over in a few mins
Off late, I do feel the performance stress before sex. I had not had any sex for 7 years, this was not because of any physical or mental ailment but a reason I am not comfortable sharing now. However, I used to masturbate during this time. But over a while, the absence of real sex has now killed my confidence. In the last 3 times, I could not have my penis hard. It was firm for the time being but as soon as I put on the condom, the hardness starts fading. Now I am wondering whether just masturbating has impacted the firmness of my penis while excited.
Premature ejaculation
Yes it affects my performance