Yes it is getting erected that is the hardest.
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It’s been tough. Going 26, I don’t feel like I’ve had ‘good sex’ in my life. While my partner was very understanding throughout our relationship, after months of failure, and each time it getting worse and worse, it finally broke me. And my relationship.
You keep thinking, what’s wrong with me? Then you think maybe it’s her? Next thing you know, it’s guilt after cheating, a breakup, and that’s a boulder on your shoulders for years.
Guilt, anxiety, perhaps I can even call it trauma, made me avoid seeking sex, and every time I’d end up in the situation, it didn’t work out that well. I’ve learned not to guilt-trip myself as much, but I can certainly feel a tool being taken on my mentals.
Silver linings are that I’ve learned to please a girl orally, but even that now seems like an escape plan that I don’t want to have to rely on every time.
I hope this helps. It’s not something I can really afford, but I hope it helps…
Yes i have always had this challenge. This program has helped me so much to deal with this issue… I have had a good number of successful sex since i signed in here…
I don’t feel anxious or think anxious thoughts. In fact, during my marriage, I used to get really great erections but my wife was toxic and made me very anxious. Seems counterintuitive
Yes, it affects me by making things less pleasurable and sometimes I get less hard
Ruins it completely
Yes, I can’t get an erection and the i experience more anxiety because I feel like my partner is mad or upset.
Yes, usually when its the first time with a new girl or the girl is particularly hot.
Yes it affects me. Makes me feel numb during, constantly thinking what do I need to do next, does she like it, will I be able to get it or keep it up.
Will mean that I end up thinking about it for the rest of the night and the days after. I’ll often be moody and short with people after it happens too or feel like I need to over prove myself.
Absolutely. I get anxious over either my heart rate getting to high, or not being able to get it up. And then not being able to please my partner.
Idk I don’t wanna explain it
I’ve never been able to perform properly in the bedroom and if I do get hard I just cum out of fear that I’ll lose my erection. Thankfully my wife is understanding and wants me to work with her at improving something that has had a negative effect on my who life.
Not really . I’m like ‘oh well’ it just is what it is, no point stressing. Up until my early thirties I had no problem at all in getting it up …. Then for a variety of reasons I had no sex life for a couple years . I have now started up again and that’s when I noticed a problem . Done a battery of checkups and everything says I’m healthy . I exercise regularly and have a good diet . Started to rely on pills to get it up .
Yes constantly in my head and definitely suffer from the anxiety and resort to the frame that I won’t be able to perform today.
Worrying about it
Every time - it’s really difficult as it affects my relationship. As good as my partner is at trying to reassure me, it undoubtedly affects her and it is a big problem now. I’m going to change that.
Yes. It causes my erection to go away or not even happen. I often worry I’m not big enough or that I don’t last long enough.
Definitely not an easy thing to deal with. Been in a few relationships where ED has been apart of them all. Was sexually active since the age of about 16, definitely think that porn could be a contributing factor to that. I’m glad I have started to attack the issue, knowing and acknowledging the issue I believe is the first step
I think too much about sustaining an erection and not enough on the moment and the feelings. I often find myself talking to myself in my head and overthinking everything.