Do you ever get anxious during sex? How does it affect you? (Part 1)

I worry about getting hard the first time, and second time, then I settle down and am a good lover in intercourse. I can always satisfy them with oral sex, always have. It’s a upsetting mindset I cannot seem to shake

yes I typically get it up but once it comes time to put it in… game over. I panic and it goes down real quick

Mine has become so bad I know long get up unless I wank it and still it doesn’t get rock hard

Its really about being over critical of myself and the situation: am I going to make her feel good… will it be good sex etc. Then these thoughts take me away from the moment and I become less ‘present’ and less aroused.

Yes, the fear is I cant get it up and stsy hard.

I usually get anxious about getting hard or staying hard when having sex. If I take Viagra I’m usually fine…knowing my penis will get harder and I relax more because of this supposition…even in the morning after I take Viagra even though I know it shouldn’t work by then.

As soon as my thinking brain kicks in during foreplay, my erection goes, I get clammy, my breathing changes. Game over.

I get worried that I can’t get an erection and then sustain one

It feels like an immovable thought or feeling that’s planted in your brain, the second you give it your attention, things go wrong.

Yes. The odd time something naturally leads to sex where my partner and I are both turned on and there is little required from me. This is rare though. My anxiety makes me want to avoid sex and it prevents me from intentionally trying to get my partner horny. I can’t really even think how I could turn her on. During sex if something breaks the ‘flow’ then I go straight into my head and can’t feel a way to get back into it. Sometimes I just totally freeze…can’t move or speak. Other times I will have had an erection at the start whilst performing oral on my girlfriend but when it comes to us having sex (if it gets to that stage) I loose the erection. Anxiety also prevents me from taking my time and enjoying the experience which then makes the experience worse for my partner. It often feels like the fear of returning to that awful anxiety ridden freeze state outweighs the amazing positives of successful sex. Anxiety also makes me feel less physically and emotionally attractive.

yes.

I’m married and I’ll go through spurts where I’m great sexually and then after maybe a month break or my wife not being in the mood for sometime, I’ll have trouble getting an erection. I wonder if I watch to much porn in the down times, pills don’t work for me

Yes in the last couple of years with my partner, just at the start of penetration, I worry that something is going to go wrong

Yes, I can have election but when my mind worry about keeping the election then it goes away, I don’t gate election at all

Yes - fear of not getting it up is at the forefront of my mind

yes, as soon as the moments starts im only thinking on keeping it hard and I am not in the moment anymore, I just want to enjoy my sex life and my partner

Yes, i’m constantly and actively thinking about what to do next, while simultaneouly worried about my performance.

Very much so. I find that I prolong foreplay for as long as possible before I have to get hard enough to have penetrative sex.

Yes

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