Any suggestions or techniques that actually work to stimulate the clit?
Vibrators
Mine loves small circles with 2 fingers. But she has to be super wet or we use woo lube.
Make sure you spend a lot of time teasing first. Gently outline it on top of panties… then a lil harder. Then move on to caress other parts of her. Slowly make your way back. This time slide inside her panties… gently caress all around her outer lips. The clit is not just the doorbell. It’s shaped like a wishbone and travels outside the outer lips almost the entire length of the vaj. Then work a finger or 2 inside. As for the doorbell, mine likes 2 fingers and medium to hard pressure little circles. With my tongue, she likes side to side. If she has a hood that covers it, gently pull up on the skin just above it to expose the doorbell.
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Good luck!