I need help with this. I don’t watch porn/masturbate frequently (maybe once a month) and am seeing this girl that I really, really like. We tried to have sex last Saturday and I couldn’t get hard. I gave her great oral sex and luckily she finished but I couldn’t get hard for PIV and I could feel she begging for it. During all of this I was super turned on mentally but my body was like turned off. I have experienced this for a long time but I never took it serious as of the past 2-3 months where I don’t masturbate/watch anything to masturbate. I dropped porn a couple years ago. I am even taking natural supplements like maca, ginseng, beetroot, raw honey, L-arginine, etc. I have even tried a really small dose (2.5mg) of Tadalafil, and literally nothing. This is a nightmare and I want to break free once and for all, I’m literally trying my hardest. Any help?
Literally went through the same thing as you man. Just keep at it with the activities in this app. It’ll give you a better understanding of why it’s happening to you and what you can do to fix it.
Pills were not enough to overcome my PED. My brain is stronger than the damn pills… what I did was:
Work the app. Do the mental gymnastics. They help.
I started a daily kegal routine.
I got really good at oral/fingering. She’s fully onboard with my issues and super willing to help! (Deathgrip and PED) I like to get her to finish at least a couple times before I think about my needs…. Feeling and hearing her get off is a super turn on for me. As for me- she’s gotten really good at oral and her handwork is pretty good too… I got super real with her saying this is MY issue, but you may be able to help… I suggested talking a bit naughty… not gross or demeaning, but honest and real. Tell me what you want or need or direct me or,’…?
The other morning we didn’t have much time as I started messing around close to wake up time… she asked me to finger her while she used a toy on herself. Huge turn on!!
I also use a silicone ring that restricts blood out of me which may just be a crutch at this point.
Not sure what was most beneficial for me, but being super up front and getting her assurance that she’s on my side was huge.
I’m mostly able to get 70% and go until my back won’t take it… still working on my deathgrip…
Good luck man!!
It’s entirely possible your body just needed longer to feel relaxed and get fully turned on. Especially because it was your first time with someone new who you really like!
Curious if you’ve done the activities The biology of great sex and Box breath yet? They could be good places to start to shed some light on what you experienced Saturday and get you feeling more confident for next time.