My heart pounds so fast and so hard it’s basically impossible for me to get an erection. My opportunity’s for sex are very far from in-between so it’s not something I can just practice
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Does anyone know a way of calming the heart other than breathing techniques?
I know this isn’t helpful but I have the same issue where whenever I get intimate my heart starts racing and it’s like I’m panicking but I feel fine in my head, mind and body just isn’t connected
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Same. I don’t have any self esteem or confidence issues and I don’t necessarily get nervous when I’m with a woman but once it doesn’t happen naturally I start to overthink it and I just can’t connect with my body anymore.
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I don’t know if this is helpful, but talk positively to yourself frequently. Both in your head and out loud. I mean it, literally look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are awesome. You’re exactly the person you want to be. Anxiety is all in your head. If you really want to stop having anxiety, get chased by a bear (I’m joking, but also not). Anxiety exists because most people don’t face real danger anymore. Fear is supposed to be a survival instinct. We get scared of the wild because things can hurt us. But when nothing actually endangers us anymore, we develop anxiety. It’s not real. It’s literally the absence of real danger, and we have anxiety.
Talk positive to yourself and about yourself. When you do have sex, thing about her body, feel her body, thing about the feeling of her body. Quit making it about you and your dick. Enjoy the moment. Listen to Bob Marley. I know it sounds like I’m joking, but I’m not. Life is good, start to say it’s good out loud.
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