Discovery: we learn a lot from each other. I particularly learn a lot from her worldview, taste, sense of humour, decision making and knowledge. We have good time together and feel safe.
Dream: I want to really grow as a couple in the sense that I can fully share my vulnerability and also take responsibility and change. I want to support and be supported in life with her.
Design: I need to open up and listen more attentively. I can use time in my own to picture our relationship, sharing my findings with her later. This can be a daily practice. Need to be more specific
Destiny: love what I choose.
4Ds
Discovery: We’re kind to each other, we have similar interests, we’re good friends, we’re openly emotional with each other, we get on with each other’s families, we balance each other out
Dream: I just want a relationship full of love and intimacy, I want passion, I want a bit of craziness and excitement, but also to have stability and calmness when necessary
Design: I think maybe being a bit more flirty and fun myself might help, a bit more of myself at the core, but understanding that she loves that version of me too
Destiny: I need to understand that being myself is fine, and no one is perfect, but when I’m in a bad place this version of me shrivels. But that confident version of me is the best version!
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Discover: We support each other to grow and discover new interests, we are good parents together, we help each other relax
Dream: we each have richer more independent lives but lots of quality time together too
Design: keep on investing time on hobbies and other friends, but carve out quality time for each other (with and without Juno)
Destiny: plan a good date tomorrow, then maybe some separate time, make good follow-up plans incl big new year dates
I don’t like frameworks, stating this as a former management consultant