Discovery: having a bond that’s not just physical or emotional but both of those things and being able to share wins (and losses) with each other and supporting them through that. Having a deeper friendship that also involves physical intimacy
Dream: share everyday moments together and appreciate the little things while also going on adventures together, continue to flirt and simmer even after weeks/months/years together
Design: continue to put myself out there but also don’t force things that aren’t working, continue making efforts with new people to build relationships but don’t feel pressured to find something right now if it doesn’t feel right
Destiny: continue to reflect on what I’m looking for and take notes of what I like and don’t like about relationships I experience. Lean on friends for support
D: she’s strong, loving, driven, extremely attracted to her. love her playfulness. we try new things together
D: to take a bigger risk in our marriage and try something different, Could be career wise, change house or live abroad. Have more exciting times together. to reduce the mundane where resentment or boredom can enter its ugliness.
D: I need to stop procrastinating, get energised. take owner ship, leadership and make positive decisions rather than wait for things to just happen.
D: get better at communicating, expressing my thoughts and views. share ideas and let them grow. keep reflecting on what I am treating to achieve, and work on each of the small steps
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Discovery : our ability to adapt, the adventures we take together, finding special moments of bliss every time i wake next to her.
Dream : adventure or family?
Design -and destiny: I think we need help achieving this together. Each time we speak of the future we block and revert back to enjoying the present. We have talked about potentially seeking a couples therapist to help us map it out.
Discovery - our ability to discuss issues.
Dream - live together on a plot of land with a garden.
Design - get to a place of financial freedom and find a plot of land.
Destiny - talk about the plan first. We’re still very early in the relationship for a commitment like this, but it feels like the right thing to do.
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I haven’t had many relationships but the best part is feeling appreciated and reciprocating that appreciation to where both feel special. I want a future where my partner can live our lives and still feel in love with each other, not out of pressure but out of real devotion. I need to focus on that type of bond earlier in dating cycles
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The best about a couple is thst you can share interests, affections, problems to make them lighter, etc. It’s about the company.
I think I have much of that, but the focus on bids for connection can help to feel it more authentic and not just automatic day to day stuff.
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Seeing the smile shine of happiness
A deep connection
Be open to vulnerability
List. Listen breathe
Discovery: I think the best parts of a relationship are are the love and support you give and receive, moments of vulnerability that make the relationship stronger, discovering new places and new things about yourself and your partner even after years, laughing together, and intense physical intimacy.
Dream: to be partnered with someone who sees and accepts and loves me for who I am. To build a life together, to support each other, to take risks together, to live fully and presently, and to maybe raise a family together.
Design: I’m currently single so I need to exercise patience in the crazy world of modern dating, I need to practice good communication while dating, work on my erection issues and be open to meeting people. I also want to continue investing in my own life and passions, and trust that someone will come along!
Destiny: I need the support of friends and family, I need to continue treating myself with respect.
Best part is connecting with someone else. I’d like to find someone to be regularly engaged with romantically and sexually. I need to approach more people I don’t know. Maybe one new activity a week
Discovery: The best part is being locked in and secure. Knowing I chose my partner, she chose me, and through thick and thin we are going to choose each other. The second best part is the adventure and fun that comes with having a constant companion.
Dream: The dream is for us both to love and be more than satisfied with our sexual relationship. Both aware of what we like and what the other likes. And for us both to get pleasure from giving pleasure to the other.
Design: we need to activity practice without goals. We need to initiate intimacy even if it’s not full intercourse.
Destiny: I’m going to lead the way. I’m going to show my wife that I’m up for spontaneity but initiating more.
Discovery: best part of relationships are sharing and building goals. Youre with a partner that is practically your best friend.
Dream: i would like a partner that is loyal and committed to the relationship, the same way I am. I would like to be aligned with them spiritually and mentally, where we can raise a structured family
Design: im currently single but I do have a habit of being indecisive with my decisions and sometimes not prioritizing her happiness.
DESTINY: I need to work on building consistent goals and start acknowledging her feelings as just. I need to be more open for communication and stop saying away on difficult conversations.
Discovery: She’s very easygoing to be around and I feel like I can be myself with her. Plus, we have a ton of fun together.
Dream: That we both commit to the relationship and build an honest and adventurous relationship together.
Design: I think we both need to make a concerted effort to be more communicative and direct with each other.
Destiny: I think I need to make the first step and be clear on my needs, wants, and boundaries.
Discovery: supportive partners who enhance each others strengths, cover weaknesses, and help each other to grow consistently. “Swiss army knife” relationship. We are best friends at the same time as lovers and problem solvers.
Dream: both achieve our dream careers, and have fun together in our free time. Build a shared life wea can enjoy together despite spending a fair amount of time apart
Design: first we need to deepen the relationship. More hard conversations, and achieve our goals. Connection through sex may also help.
Destiny: continue having the hard conversations when they feel uncomfortable. None of this will last. Continue to reduce my anxiety around the relationship so I can have better sex
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Discovery - the intimacy with another person is what I’m looking for. To be open and to trust them
I want a relationship that has me laughing and enjoying our time all the time. One where we can play as much as possible. And are together a lot, but not all the time
I need to start going to dating specific events and getting myself out there again. I don’t need support to do it, but I do need to commit to at least doing something once a week to try and resolve it/find a person
Discovery: Best part in a relationship is the companionship. Get home from work knowing there’s someone waiting for you is the best feeling.
Dream: Having no pressure when I know I’ll meet someone, have clear in my head I want THE PERSON, instead of thinking about penetration straight away.
Destiny: I am hopeful and working hard on it. With highs and lows, accepting that it takes time to change a mindset that have been here since always.
Discovery:
The companionship, the deep connection with someone who I am intrigued and inspired by on a deep emotional level, who I love to listen to and who I believe loves to listen to me.
Dream: to achieve our goals together and triumph both independently and cooperatively, to share a deep and long lasting love, support eachother and problem solve together, maintain as positive a mindset as possible despite what life throws at us,
Design: we need to find a way to feel together even when we are apart, and have tough conversations as soon as possible before issues can arise, I need to not be scared of being vulnerable and honest with her and communicate my thoughts effectively and in an uplifting way.
Destiny: if she cannot accept my truths including the ones I am anxious or vulnerable about then it will never work, so I need to be confident to share these early and be an open effective communicator. It can still be playful fun conversation but the way she reacts will inform me of the ability for the relationship to succeed.
Discovery – looking back, they have been enjoying every day and taking challenges in a stride. Making small plans and big plans together but also keeping life interesting by having our own things going on and looking forward to excitement together.
Dream -  I dream that I can be in a relationship where we both feel able to share our vulnerabilities, strengths and individualities to create better connection
The next part I’ll have to work on when I do get a partner… But I will really be aware of those bids for connection in that process as and when it happens
Discovery: We get along great in most aspects. We spend a lot of time close to one another in our tiny house and rarely fight.
Design: I’d like to feel less like best friend roommates and more like best friends who share everything. Including an intimate connection.
Discovery: I need to work on understanding and controlling my own urges. Instead I’d like to focus on what WE like and the things we can do better together.
Destiny: I’d like to commit to doing more things out of the norm. Maybe breaking the cycle of monotony and doing new exciting things could help to spur deeper connection outside of the bedroom and could translate into it as well.
Discovery: In a relationship the best part is the friendship between you and your partner, also the intimacy in sex is a great point.
Dream: I want to work with music, that’s my dream. Career changing is what I’m really needing atm. Also have the same confidence and desire I used to have for my ex, to have sex with different partners.
Design: I really need to study more about the music workstations I am studying, install them on my pc and practice and practice.
During sex, my strategy is being more focused on my partner’s face, eyes mainly, to really make me desire him instead of being worried about my erection.
Destiny: I really need to achieve those things in my life because I know I can be really good in both activities, I just need to be myself more, trust in my intuition.