Being with her, around her, making her laugh, relishing in her presence, body and personality.
I want to be more adventurous, spontaneous and capable sexually. I want to feel normal and not second-guess or worry about letting her down during ever encounter.
By focusing on healing the mental and improving the physical, I will be the best husband I can be and throw that dick at her whenever and wherever she might want it.
being with her, talking to her, her personality, laughing at her jokes, laughing with her, enjoying the moment with her, basking in her presence, her body and touch.
i want to be more open and adventurous for and with her. i want to be more capable sexually and be able to feel like i’m not letting her down whenever something doesn’t go right or perfect. being able to let go of my anxious thoughts about sex and being able to use condoms without my erection going down because of my mental blockade.
Discovery: A perfect Relationship to me, sounds like being able to connect with a person even if you dont see them all the time. But when you do, its like no time passed at all. Someone who values their space and time enough to understand that life can be chaotic but when were together we can truly share intamicy without thinking less of each other because we have our own lives.
Dream: Get myself to a point where my confidence shines through without it seemibg like im trying too hard. So I can develop the life of pleasure/success i always wanted since I was young.
Design: Sticking to working out and eating clean will definitely help me reduce alot of the physical issues that come with age and illness. In order to look and feel better for what I see. Plus actually develop more interpersonal skills around others and no5 be such a creature of habit all the time.
Destiny: I definitely need to work on my self discipline, but support wise, having someone who sees and understands my pov without critics or making fun of me, woukd definitely help.
Best parts: communication, care, support, love, fun hanging out, touch, alignment in views
Dream: connected through all the change, being able to reliably connect through intimacy and sex, travel, exploration of the world aambitions
Plan: i need to work on my performance anxiety and headgame, and she needs to work on reactions to it, but otherwise we are on a great track generally with comms and conflict resolution
Destiny: this app for me, therapy otherwise and just being open and accepting, but not settling (trying to work on and improve)
Best parts having done one yo share things with, the best future would be find that companion to share my days and dreams with, try to be more alert to bids and notice when people need my focus.
Best parts of relationships is the connection and affection you share with your partner.
The best future is open communication, affection, ability to negotiate respectfully and sexual connection.
Need to start dating with serious intentions and stop being distracted by ONS or short term fun.
Be more mindful of who I’m going on dates with - respect myself and my time, don’t waste it.
Best part of a relationship is the unspoken bond and trust. Always being there for the other and knowing they’ll always be there for you.
Dream: a relationship where we’re happy together. Communicating clearly. Responding to the others bids. And sexually satisfied and more confident.
Design: we need to talk. Reconnect and establish where we have been failing. Responding to bids. And being clear when the other isn’t.
Destiny: clear and honest communication. Removing distractions like phones. Making time just for us. To really connect and not just exist.
Discovery: the trust and stability we have the feeling that we can rely on one and other.
Dream: that we are both better connected more open with each other and less afraid to share something with each other for fear of upsetting things.
Design: be more present more attentive. I have a habit of getting engrossed in my phone or a computer game and sometimes getting annoyed when she asks for attention.
Delivery: Find things that we can do together so we are not individually staring at our devices and ignoring one and other. Talk more while hours can go by in each others company where we barely speak to each other. Or she asks a question and gets the briefest of answers
Discovery: I am incredibly blessed to be in a new relationship with someone who’s loving, kind, present, understanding, affectionate, etc. We both show up for each other consistently and in meaningful ways.
Dream: I’d love to build a lifelong partnership with this woman, to love and support each other through life’s highs and lows, to have a rock solid bond, to always be close and kind to each other.
Design: I commit to continuing my daily Mojo practice, to meditating more often (ideally daily), to playing music more consistently, to watching less TV, and to being mindful/present/grateful for each moment that I’m able to spend with her.
Destiny: For as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted to find a person with whom to build a lifelong partnership. To achieve that goal, I’m deeply motivated to practice self care and show up for her in ways that are kind, humble, and loving above all else!
Best parts of the relationship: - We have fun together, we’re very similar, enjoy watching the same things.
Best future: - Kids not long down the road, having an active sex life where I don’t have worry in the back of my mind as to whether it works or not
What needs to change?: - More positive attitude in regards to anything sexual. Stop thinking so negative. Get out of my own head.
How to commit to that: - Just keep at what I’m doing. Continue to stay positive and everything will fall into place
Discovery: She’s very confident and decisive, which makes being around her super fun and attractive.
Dream: A relationship that’s built on trust, communication, adventure, and genuinely pushing each other in a positive way to be better versions of ourselves. I also envision a playful and healthy sex life that evolves as we grow.
Design: It’s in the early stages, but we likely need to continue to grow our communication in a way that forces us out of our comfort zones a little because whenever we seem to do that, it appears to provide benefits for us.
Destiny: I likely need my partner to buy into/agree with this idea and recognize that while she experienced relationship trauma in the past, that shouldn’t dictate how we build and grow our relationship going forward.
Discovery: she’s like my best friend as well as my wife. Outside the bedroom there’s very little I would change about her
Dream: to be honest with each other, have a great sex life but also value things outside the bedroom and that importance
Design: work on myself, keep learning
The other one: keep persisting with learning, even when it feels like I don’t need it. Love and value myself as much as I do her
I’d like a relationship that centres on communication, touch, and being supportive to each other. We’d message each other daily and we’d try to get together frequently, as our respective lives and responsibilities permit. I need to be clearer about what I am looking for, and establish communication norms early. I need to put it on my dating apps and maybe have a short message for early in communication with new people.
Discovery – She is my rock. My best friend. The person whom I love more than life itself. We had a good sex life, and we are open and honest with each other in communicating what we want.
Dream – That my wife and I reignite that spark that we once had and enjoy each other’s company more intimately. I want to regain her trust and show her that she means the world to me every day.
Design – I need to address my psychological issues so that I can be the best version of myself for both me and my wife. Being more attentive to my wife’s needs and desires is important, as I may have let that slip over the years. Continuing to reinforce my total love and devotion to her and being the one person, she can rely on no matter what.
Destiny – Seeking help and therapy is a start for myself. Communicating what our goals are and perhaps seeking some couples therapy to help keep us on track to make sure we are both heading in the right direction.
Discovery: we like to adventure together and talk about the adventure. Explore new places, new shows, new events. The sex was usually Wonderful.
Dream: I want to listen to her to make her excited about talking to me again. Do things with her so that we can have more to talk about. And make love to her so that our relationship can be physical again.
Maybe I take off work to take her on a date while our daughter is in school.
I’m going to check my calendar and just do it
Discovery: Best parts are that she’s my best friend, how we can talk for hours and how anything we do is fun
Dream: My dream is that we reignite the passion we used to have, and that we continue to grow together
Design: I will overcome my anxiety and fears that I have regarding sex and her, so that I will be more present in the relationship and so that I don’t let act worse because of the anxiety
Destiny: in order to commit to this I need to use this app, and well as put in consistent effort in talking to my inner critic, and in remembering that I will be able to do this. The breathing exercises are amazing too!
Discovery: going with the flow has worked for me in the past
Dream: all I want is to be in a long term relationship and understand what that kind of love feels like
Design: I need to be less uptight and stop pretending I know what’s gonna happen in the future and just allow it to unfold
Destiny: I will withhold my doubts and stop overcommunicating thoughts before I have had a chance to scrutinize them. I get too convinced that my thought process is valid in the moment only for me to think it’s stupid the following morning.
Discover: We are in our late 50s and still make love every 2 eeeks or so.
Dream: She creates sexually charged moments with me a few times each week.
Design: I will communicate better with her and will tell her that this is a dream of mine, and hope that she is willing to help make it come true.
Destiny: If she refuses to help, I will work to understand why, in hopes that we can come to a compromise.
Discovery- she always believes in me and challenges me to want more from life. Every easy going and is obsessed with me and we prioritise the same things like food and merry making
Dream - I would like be me more sexually charged and proactive when it comes to expressing emotions and initiating sex confidently
Design- I need to work on my erection issues and understand that they are coming from a breakdown in communication and confidence. I also need to separate the stress of work and progress with my personal life
Destiny: I am trying to keep the Mojo routine, I am working on calming myself and being more present. Tuning out the noise and focusing on beinyin the moment
Discovery: We are extremely close and connected and becoming closer as the years pass.
Dream: To continue building this life together with a healthier more passionate sex life.
Design: Need to become more exploratory in our sex lives. Need to reframe my brain to how I think about it.
Destiny: Right now it’s committing to this.