We’re doing lots. Communicating, open, supportive, fun, exploratory, etc. Both aware and willing to work
Discovery: companionship, safety, laughter, shared experiences and interests
Dream: looking forward to time together, a more organic and fun shared sex life, a renewed sense of spark
Design: allocated time together spanning date nights and other, more novel activities and experiences
Destiny: ensuring honest communication, allocating time, balancing deep communication with a sense of fun
Discovery: Communication, shared experiences, companionship
Dream: Living together with my partner, through the ups and downs of everyday life. Enjoying ourselves, enjoying each other, spontaneous sex with love permeating throughout our home
Design: Resolving/managing my sexual wellness issues to enjoy the spontaneous sex, taking more time out to build a connection through date nights, and just general nights spent together
Destiny: By committing to at least one date night a week. Spending quality time together. Not shying away from tough conversations.
Discover: having a beat friend that you can explore life with intimately and expressively.
Dream: living the most fulfilling lives possible and sharing theses moments together, pushing and supporting one another along the way
Design: working on being the greatest version of myself so that I can be there in every way possible.
Destiny: keep my life organised and having my goals centre stage. Making small daily efforts to build towards it.
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Discovery: the thing that I have deep and bright feelings.
Dream: pong, loving, respectfull and safe relationship.
Design: I need to restructure my worries and thoughts.
Destiny: I might need a help of a therapist to receive feedback.
My wife and I are about to meet together with a couples’ counselor who’s been working with us each individually over the past six weeks or so. This Mojo session has been excellent preparation for that joint meeting. Feeling hopeful, I’m anticipating the next stages.
Discovery - Shared interests and hobbies, shared kinks, wanting to explore and try new things together, feeling like the connections are organic and that they evolve on their own.
Dream - More sex. Both for surface level pleasure and for deeper more trusting connections. I’d love to get to a place where our sex and kink can just flow and grow effortlessly.
Design - More communication, definitely. Trying to lean into more bids for affection and trying to have sex sooner in the evening/during our time together.
Destiny - Being brave and bringing up needs and desires is a big one. I think this is getting easier but still fraught with a it of tension. I think I just need to keep being my most authentic self and asking for what I want.
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Discovery- getting to know the girl and finding similar interests with her. Finding and loving each others quirks
Dream- one day I’d want to find a girl that works for me and my lifestyle where I also work for hers
Design- don’t close off to experiences that could be good be open to finding love even if she’s not what I invisioned
Destiny- apply what I learn grow as a person and achieve my personal goals for this life
Discovery- Not sure the few friends i do have we’re pretty tight i guess that’s a plus
Dream- The best scenario i can hope for is being in a loving relationship with kids and a decent house.
Design- I think i’m taking all the right steps right now but i just need to figure out how to stop smoking weed (doing better) and staying on task more often
Destiny- i just think i need a more consistent job and lifestyle where i can get into a set routine honestly then i think everything will fall into place.
Incorrect, not what they’re asking for
Discovery - I love feeling very connected to my partner. We communicate well
Dream - I would love for the both of us to feel more satisfaction in our aspect of our lives.
Design - more radically candid conversations could help.
Destiny - I need to find time to communicate on a more rigid level with my partner
Discovery: What are the best parts of your relationship? If you’re not in a relationship, what are the best parts of relationships in general?
In my recently started relationship,
Best parts
- Affection
- Shared motivation to self-improve
- Compatibility of character (we are both very independent)
- The fact that we look forward to a future together
Dream: What’s the best future you can hope for? Think about what you will do day-to-day. Don’t settle for a simple description like, “happy”. - Mind-blowing sex
- Living together
- Having the personal mission to make the other happier and happier and help them to thrive in their personal projects
Design: What needs to change to get you there? Practically what steps do you need to take? What positives can you expand? - We need to know each other more
- I need to relax more and become more confident
- The communication about difficult topics could also improve
Destiny: How might you commit to that? What kind of support do you need to accomplish your preferred future? - I have just booked an appointment with sexologist
- I am doing CBT exercises + physical exercise + kegels + meditation
- I have started talking a supplement (l-argeninge with l-citrulin)
the best parts of our relationship is the moments when we are laughing obnoxiously together and exploring
the best future I can hope for us is one where we fill our scrapbook full of photos of us smiling and exploring the world
the way I can achieve that is being more open with communication and discussing my feelings with my partner. we need to tackle the heavy conversations to clear the air and enjoy ourselves
discovery = is the memories u make with them, the feeling of being cared for, the physical touch and intimacy aswell as the laughs and the fun. connecting with someone on a one-to-one level that is unique to only the two of u.
dream = a future where we are never bored. one where i am as excited to see my partner as the day i met them. a future where she is happy. a future where both have made sacrificies for the other. a future where we are both our own person as well as a couple.
design = opening up alot more. talking about how i feel and what i want from life. being a little selfish tbh whilst also being considerate. take the edge off a bit. not trying to control everything and go with the flow and enjoy it.
destiny = saying whats on my mind. realising that a relationship will never last without trust and that opening up isnt a bad thing. also realising that i dont want to have to keep stuff in my whole life and that by putting myself first i can enjoy my life to the fullest whilst also supporting a partner to do the same
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Discovery: having someone to create and share memories with; to do life together; have great sex; laugh and be sad with someone.
Dream: a future where we tell each other about the boring things of our day but still feel so interested by them. Where we show small acts of love. Where we communicate how we feel without judgement; where we succeed as individuals but thrive as a couple
Design: I need to continue healing. Letting go of things I can’t control, and maybe stop trying to control too much. Working on building that Self within me and to know that I deserve and am worthy of love no matter what. I need to continue to learn to act from a place of courage and not fear.
Destiny: self healing that inner child by catching myself when emotions are high. Self soothing and self regulating so that my anxieties don’t take hold. Speak my mind, be respectful and always stay curious about someone else’s feelings. Be compassionate
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Discovery: The emotional intimacy, sex, spiritual connection, feeling respected & I feel safe
Dream: 2/4 kids, stability, constant growth, peace of mind, self honesty, at least one great woman by my side who I’ll be honest with who will also be honest with me, self love, love & respect for myself & others
Design: Being honest with self, self improvement, hard & smart work, maintaining a healthy diet, exercise routine & lifestyle. I’m starting to be more honest with self and being more patient with self
Destiny: By building a routine, finding healthy outlets, asking for help when needed. Positive but honest support from people I can trust
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Discovery: we can count on each other, we share thrust and same values in life.
Dream: we accept and take care of each other’s the way we are, we share intimacy with the will to expand and deepening our lives experience
Design: affirmation of my needs and be more open to discussing freely about them
Destiny : life’s to short to watch it pass without standing for myself, my love, my friends and family
Discovery: The opportunity to be vulnerable in areas I’ve never been before. Having a woman looking out for me and me looking out for her. Having someone who genuinely loves me. Her beauty which I genuinely enjoy.
Dream: More of a wholistic growth between us that is physical, emotional, spiritual and just a deep knowing of one another.
Design: I think time. I think I need patience, but we can build on the good foundation we have.
Destiny: By locking in and committing but also connecting with our friends and family.
Discovery: The mutual love for each other, wanting each other to succeed. Having someone help give purpose and connetion
Dream: Happy me happy wife a strong family foundation.
Design: Fix my current disconnected relationship or start fresh and actually try and fail with making connections not just for sex.
Destiny: Communication
Discovery: reliable, dependable, many shared values.