A Husband and the Wife’s Perimenopause

[literary-aquamarine-alpaca]

I am at my wits end.

My wife and I went to a military ball. Had a good time, danced, got romantic…then we came home. I thought I read the signals and made a pass at her.

And she laid into me. “Not just no, but it’s not like you could get it up anyway.”

I was flattened. We’d made so much headway (in part thanks to this app), and I feel like we’re back to square one. Maybe even worse.

I confronted her in the morning, and she apologized, and she re-highlighted her utter lack of sex drive, but I’m just crushed.

She cries episodically, and she’ll fight at the drop of a hat…and yes…her sex drive is nonexistent. We have sex once a week, but I don’t feel like we’ve made love in years.

I’m not sure what I’m looking for here, but I feel like most of my erection issues stem from her utter lack of effort or mercurial temperament.

So. There’s all that.

[impressive-blush-planarian]

Hey brother I hear you and see you. You’re not the only one. We’ve been dealing with a similar situation for a little bit. I felt like sex was a bit of a weekly chore for her. It was something I could overlook for a while but then one day it was just super un-sexy and I lost my boner halfway through. And that kinda set me into a bit of depression. She has started some hormones and it’s a little better but I am having to rework my brain now. It’s just life and we’re all out here living it!